According to her one must date sensible persons so that in an event of a breakup, there wouldn’t be “war zones”.
Madam Nkechi wrote;
***As much as possible, stop making your exes your enemies.
Sometime last week, an ex called me and connected me to a business deal of almost a million Naira.
Money paid instantly. I’m working on the job now.
Another ex fling just contacted me two days ago and wants to consult me.
I’ve dated a few men, and I’ve had a few flings. So, I’ve got quite a handful of exes… proudly so. And NONE of them is my enemy. Not even one. Most of them are my Facebook friends and/or followers.
Things happened and the relationships couldn’t go further. But they don’t end up as enemies.
Moral of the story: stop dating assholes so that in the event of breakup, you can still stay at least cordial and respectful of each other. If they see an opportunity in the future that might favour you, they might link you up.
I understand some exes are horrible humans. But why did you date them? That’s why you shouldn’t be so desperate for a relationship and end up dating assholes. It’s difficult to stay friends with an ex who’s an asshole.
My exes are imperfect, but I really can’t call any of them an asshole.
I don’t want to write personal stories of close family members and their exes. But I’ve seen situations where exes changed people’s lives by connecting them to opportunities… and no, these exes needed ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in return. They just did it because even though marriage didn’t happen, they know the said ex is a good person and deserves good things.
Even in relationships, be good. If it doesn’t end in marriage, you might still have something positive to take away from it, short or long term benefits.
If my exes call me and they need a favour, I ALWAYS do all I can to grant the favours.
- Nkechi Bianze***
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