It is a good thing to settle down with the love of your life when you are of age. The zeal in holding someone in the middle of the lonely nights is one of the reasons why many are unwilling to leave their relationships — no matter how one-sided, boring, or toxic they are. A renowned feminist who occasionally serves as a relationship expert has poured her heart out about developments she describes as worrying.
According to her most men target women who are in their thirties and in need of marriage just to scam them in the name of marriages. Nkechi Bianze made this know via her Facebook post.
***Once an average Nigerian woman hits 30, she becomes desperate for marriage. Nigerians know this and scammers have taken advantage of this.
They prey on vulnerable and/of desperate single women who are desperate for marriage or companionship.
Three days ago, a scammer contacted me on Facebook. He claims he is an only child, a widower, and has a child who lives with his mother because he is so busy with work with Agip. He claimed to be currently off shore.
I usually don't respond to messages that start with “Hi or Hello”, but I responded to his and it reaffirmed my decision to ignore such messages.
He started proposing marriage 24-hours after we started talking. That was a red flag.
If a man mentions marriage within the first week of our meeting, that alone is enough for me to kick his ass off my life.
These men prey on single successful women, and leech them dry.
As a personal rule, I do NOT give money to a guy with the intention of marriage or relationship.
I'm 10 times more likely to give money to a man I'd never meet again that I am likely to give to a toaster.
I have just finished a conversation on LinkedIn, and another one was there. I now smell them from afar.
With the one who contacted me on Facebook, my plan was to play along, record the phone conversations, including video calls, and make him popular here on Facebook. But this guy gave me more than 20 missed calls on Facebook and WhatsApp in a space of less than 2 hours. No one has ever called me like that. And I was busy too. Playing along takes time and energy. Besides, I'm a bad pretender. I can hardly pretend to save my life. So, I blocked him.***